Embracing Change: Turn Doubt And Fear Into Courage And Faith

Imagine this. I live in a house situated on Kingfisher Crescent in Orleans, Ontario, Canada.

It’s a comfortable, cozy two story house. The moment I saw it, I knew it would be mine.

Behind the houses on the north side of the street is a beautiful greenbelt alongside the Ottawa River.

The River is frozen right now and we can walk, snow shoe or cross country ski for miles and miles. At certain points you can see only wilderness, the pristine beauty of the sun sparkling on snow and ice.

Off in the distance are ice fishing huts, where fishermen pass the time patiently waiting for a bite.

Sounds idyllic doesn’t it?

Behind this backdrop of beauty and peace I have just experienced the most profound, liberating and terrifying moments of my life.

My ego has been shattered (a good thing). I’ve become humble, but will never again will I allow myself to be humiliated.

My courage and determination are now unshakable. My faith in myself, my fellow human beings and God is invincible.

How did I come to this place? Was it by choice? Yes, but I was only partially conscious of my choice. Most of it was unconscious.

I was forced into this situation because I didn’t heed the warning signs of loved ones and trusted advisers.

I continued down the path of destruction, fear gripping me, yet ignoring my still small voice when it tried to tell me what the final consequences would be.

Basically I didn’t want to change. But it was more than that. I refused to accept my life as it was.

I felt that someone somewhere would come and rescue me from what I felt were unjust circumstances. I was a modern day Cinderella.

I was evolving in my spiritual life, but I chose to separate this life from my material existence. The reality is we cannot filter our life through a particular lens forever.

At some point we either have to deal honestly with our pain and suffering or we will succumb. It’s total honesty that will help us not only survive but thrive.

My pain came from living a life of spending beyond my means—the books weren’t being balanced and the debt kept mounting.

It’s not that my spending was particularly wasteful, although I could have done without some goodies or some trips.

I accomplished some amazing things with the money I spent but I was not wise. I didn’t have the courage to delay my gratification.

Did I have the knowledge so I could have avoided my pain and suffering?

Absolutely! Did I have the wisdom? Absolutely not!

I was an ostrich sticking my head in the sand. When I finally pulled my head out of the mud and faced the reality, I had a huge “aha”.

When we look at the credit card debt, outstanding loans, house foreclosures and the bankruptcies in Canada and the US it’s clear that I’m not alone.

And look what’s going on at the national level.

Click here to read an article I came across today.

The article is about what’s happening in the United States, but Canada isn’t much better, if at all.  And many other countries may even be worse.

Unlike our governments, I can’t print money….and I’m glad I can’t because it just means avoiding the issue. The sad fact is that when our governments finally stop printing money with wild abandon, we will all suffer even more.

Facing The Problem

I realized when I looked at my financial problems I saw in it a great force that was devastating me. But I also felt I had a greater force deep within me. And when I chose to face the problem, I proved to the problem that I not only have the greatest counter force at my disposal, I am the greatest force on earth.

With this knowledge I was ready to take action, eagerly and with a willingness to do whatever it took.

I’ve finished with over spending. I’m now into asking, giving and receiving. I’ve chosen to live a life of balance from the inside out.

It’s been a humbling experience. But it’s also been a profound growth experience, because I have truly experienced the power within me to deal with this challenge and I know any challenge that will ever confront me for the rest of my life.

I’m happier, healthier, more peaceful and on purpose now than I’ve ever been in my life.

And finding the path to a new life is a gift I want to share with you. To be of service to you, my readers would be a great privilege for me.

If you’re determined to overcome some challenges in your life read on….

Overcoming Fear

I’ve overcome my fears. I’ve turned my fears into courage. Will I ever be afraid again. Probably, but I won’t let it take me down.  When my body says “no”, I will listen and take action.

Once we eliminate our fears and are sure of our goal, then no force has the power to work against us and destroy us.

Here are some of the fears that I’ve overcome while solving my over spending problem.

1. I was afraid of what others would think about me. And I was afraid that people, including my family would judge me. Quite frankly, hardly anyone really cares, because everyone has their own problems they’re trying to deal with so they don’t have time for yours.
2. I was afraid of going through the experience of coming to terms with the situation. That fear was holding me back from embracing it.
3. In the end, the only thing to fear is fear itself. The only thing to doubt is doubt itself. Identification with fear and doubt or courage and faith is a choice, even if it’s not always a conscious choice. I have this stone on my kitchen counter.  On it is written “choice”.  So from now on, I have promised myself to make only conscious choices.

I’ve Learned A Lot

It doesn’t matter what the problem is, the process of solving it and becoming victorious is exactly the same.

So in the final analysis, I’m grateful for this problem, because it shows what can happen if we truly surrender to the Universe, and ask for help.

I’ve learned:

1. To live life fully from the inside out and not the other way around.
2. That sharing a problem with trusted advisers and loved ones before it becomes a crisis is the best approach.
3. When I separate myself from anything or anyone I move from a state of unity or oneness to a state of separateness. It’s in separateness that we lose our peace and harmony and create division in our life.
4. To completely accept myself without judgment, even if others judge me.
5. My mistakes don’t define who I am unless I let them. Nor does the attitude of someone else define me unless I let them.
6. To face and accept my challenges with a view of transforming them. When I do the Grace of God is with me, for me, and working in me for my highest good.
7. If I can remain cheerful then destructive forces cannot attack me. Have you ever felt drained when you’re around people who are constantly being negative?
8. That if I don’t forgive my failures and then forget them, I’m tying up energy that prevents me from living now and what’s worse, it prevents me from creating my future.
9. I’ve learned to be absolutely honest with myself if I want to move through an obstacle and turn it into an opportunity for growth and learning.
10. When I accepted the worst that could possibly happen and embraced it, the Universe opened up and is showering its choicest blessings on me. Now “the worst” will never happen.

As Helen Keller said “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

What My Experience Means For You

It means that I want to share my wisdom with you. I want to be of service to you to support you to deal with your biggest issue.

You may be thinking, if she’s screwed up her financial affairs, how can she support me in facing my challenges?

Well, I’ve discovered that the process of looking at a situation you want to change and then creating a new reality, is the same no matter what the problem.

That’s one of the most beautiful things about our world. Once we crack the code, we can share its secrets with others.

Suppression and negativity, along with blaming, complaining and judging take an enormous amount of energy. So much in fact there is little left for creative endeavors.

Can You Identify With These?

If you identify with any of the following, please contact me now for your FREE 90 minute Consultation.

• You’re afraid to face the problem, because you’re afraid of what you perceive the consequences to be.
• You’re in outright resistance and defiance of the situation.
• You’ve put your toe in the water and got burned so you’re afraid to try again.
• You don’t know where to start. You’re overwhelmed by all the information available.
• You’re getting conflicting advice. Friends, family and even supposed advisors are telling you what they think you should do without helping you sort out what your intuition is telling you.

My time for the 90 minute FREE Consultations is limited so I can only give 10 consultations until February 8th.

Why Is The Consultation FREE?

I want to support you to take action RIGHT NOW! I want to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned.

Think of that big issue that is keeping you stuck and preventing you from realizing your full potential.

We’ll look at your from all angles—the past, what it means to you right now, and where you want to go in the future.

At the end of the FREE Consultation you will have the opportunity to join The Change Program to solve the problem once and for all. If you commit, we’ll move forward together with my three point plan.

Three Point Plan

1. We’ll create an aspiring thought around what you want to achieve by cutting through the confusion in your mind. I call this the workable position which will bring you clarity.
2. I’ll give you tools to dive deep within to enlist all the resources you have to face the problem. We have all been given the capacity to deal with our problems. We just have to believe it.
3. I’ll support you to take action and move forward towards your goal with confidence.

If you choose not to come on board, I’ll honour your choice and wish you all the best, hoping we can work together in the future.

2010 is a year of change. Let’s face it together.

My time for the 90 minute FREE Consultations is limited so I can only give 10 consultations until February 8th.

So don’t delay if you are committed to changing your life.

Send an email to: joycefriesen@novalisintegra.com and say “Free consultation” in the subject line.

Whether or not you accept my offer, I would be delighted to get your feedback on this Blog Post. And let me know what is your biggest challenge in life. And if you’ve discovered a great strategy please share it with all of us.

To your transformation,

Joyce Friesen, Founder The Novalis Integra Center

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